When you are about to exit an eatery, a supermarket, anyone who is observant will notice that the security men greet you expectantly and in cases when the individual is bold, they out rightly ask you for money for 'the weekend' 'as per I be your boy' etc.
It is the way of the new Nigeria.
Somehow, the culture of expectation has crept into our National Creed. It is a stamp of the new Nigerian Individual.
At the Ministries, this culture is a full business enterprise. You either play to it or you get out! Brilliant Ideas, Outstanding business modules have been lost in the sea of people who refused to play to the culture of expectation.
Enter: Scene: when kids go to visit uncles, aunties & relatives, they hang around on the way out hoping for some money to drop from this older person (whether he has it or not)
When your vehicle sinks in the sea of sand or a literal sea outside your terrible-road, passersby stop to help push out. Vehicle is pushed out.
Not so fast ma'am, how far?
You are shocked so you reach into your purse and bring out 500 Naira and they tell you it is insufficient the 3 of them. They say, their 'push' cost 2000 Naira.
Yes, like I said, the culture of expectation!
You get into the bus with a younger person and they expect you to pay for the fare after all it is our way, the Nigerian way.
You travel out of the country for a much needed vacation. You barely scrapped enough to pay for a hotel but everybody at the office, the family, friends expect you to buy something for them. Too much pressure. Vacation causing headaches. It is probably better to sneak in and out without telling anyone (that breeds the Nigerian over-secretive attitude)
Is this culture causing more harm than good?
Let us review.