There is the increasing media hype in today's dynamic world that encourages men, women and children to appear more than they really are. Pastors in church chant 'Dress the way you want to be addressed', Adverts scream, Reality TV like 'Keeping Up with the Khardasians' make you want to use your credit cards and get outfits and shoes like Kim.K and her sisters have. When you spend time on Instagram and follow people like Uyanda Mbuli and many other Nigerian/African and International stars you want to order a pair of Louboutins/Valentinos/Manolo so you can take pictures and show the world that you have red soled shoes too. (Oh and I forgot to add, you earn a little less than a 1000 dollars a month).
How could I forget the hair we purchase at every turn for tens and hundreds of thousands? Human hair is good but when you buy that type about 5 or 10 times a year on a salary that competes with other life things like Housing, Food, Savings etc.
What does that say about you?
For the men, you want to step in Italian shoes, buy bespoke suits in dollars, wear hats that you cannot afford all because you want to be perceived in a particular fashion. You buy (oh I am sorry,mortgage) vehicles far above what you can afford, hang out at clubs and purchase drinks, one of which is the cost of fueling your car tank for a week, (if i may ask, what exactly are you celebrating?) you take that lady you have been eyeing out to a restaurant you have never visited by yourself all in a bid to impress. You buy those watches from your friend ''the cloth merchant'' are above 200k in naira and pay 10 times all because you want the world to think you are it.
As if that is not enough, you borrow to take International holidays with your family (not because you need it) but because the world needs to understand that you take summer holidays like the rest of the world.
But the world is not fooled, we kinda calculate what you earn or ask around when we notice your extravagance is a tad to much. When we find out you do all that to belong, we spend a good amount of time laughing but an even greater amount of time feeling sorry for you.
Reason is because many of the people you are trying to copy do not actually buy their clothes or shoes. Many of those designers you wanna kill yourself for, send it to them for free. This is the situation with most entertainers, and stylediffusers(whose job is to model clothes and shoes sent to them by PR agencies, take photos and post them for you and I who will then be tricked by the constant eye rape to purchase what we really do not need)
Don't get me wrong, dressing well is important, appearing good is even better.
But in the words of my favourite Nigerian DJ, don't go broke trying to look rich...Act your wage.
It is definately through my eyes...you don't have to agree.
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