'I hate him. I cannot stand him. I didn't realise it but I cannot forgive my husband. Morenike told me.
He has beaten me, he has cheated on me, he has betrayed the trust I had in him. The vows we exchanged on our beautiful wedding day are all lies.
I have loved him through years of lack, I have loved him through ups and downs. I have given my all. I am angry and bitter. More importantly, I am concerned about my health.
These days, I am numb. I feel nothing. I do not even rationalize his behaivour.
People have counselled us, they have prayed for us and even though I know that he is trying to change. I cannot forgive this man who has been the source of pain to me for the past 5 years.'
As I listened to this woman ache loudly, I wondered what advice was best to give her. She was frail, she looked unhappy. The lady I knew with boundless energy and a love for life and people was fading into the shadows.
She did not have the strength she used to, she did not look as fantastic as she used to. She was spent.
Do I tell her to endure in a loveless marriage?
Do I tell her walk away from her husband of 5 years. Shouldn't they just work out their problems?
Or should they just walk away from each other, their relationship was causing more harm than good.
What do you tell a woman so hurt that she no longer feels. Every emotion in her body screams resentment.