He pulled her with her weave and dragged her to the living room. He kicked her till she fell down in pain.
How could she have disobeyed his instruction not to dye her hair?
Did she not know she was mother to two children? Was her plan to get men chasing after her?. He asked.
He felt no remorse, only contentment. Yes. This is what men (his men) generations past had done to erring women.
To him, his ideas of a woman was one who needed protection and one whose womb should be used to breed the next generation. After all, the bible she talked about so much called her kind 'the weaker sex'! His actions validated his beliefs.
This was one of the ways Dee routinely beat her.
It wasn't always this way.
Cece had fallen in love with this socially inept man, he had been shy, withdrawn and lacked self esteem. All she wanted to do was love on him and show him he was more that he thought. She knew he was a struggling man and she readied herself to endure with him till he 'made' it.
But marriage released a beast in this man she never knew existed. She endured every pain he threw at her convincing herself that every marriage went through problems, when in actual fact, he was destroying her self worth.
She couldn't pick up her phone when he was there. She couldn't laugh out of turn for fear of what he may do to her. She had to be careful what suggestions she gave regarding a matter so she didn't get a slap as trophy.
He womanized. He smoked.
He told her repeatedly that she was the worst thing that happened to him. She endured for the sake of her children.
She said it was like hell. As I sat and listened to her share, I realized that Cece had being a product of confused emotions at that time. She had loved a man who had no idea how to be a man.
Today, she has overcome. She fought the battle for her life and that of her husband. She rose above the hate she constantly felt, she prayed, she showed everyone especially God by nurturing the man he gave to her, back to him.
Today, he cannot do anything without her. He is ashamed of the wasted years. He wished he could take them away. But he swore that he would always put a smile on her face no matter what.
When I heard this, all I wanted to ask was why she endured so many years?
She replied 'I couldn't throw him away' Even if I made a mistake of marrying him, God honoured our marriage and he was mine. It was not my decision to give him up. God saw all he did to me. If he refused to change, I believed God would have done all that was necessary to take him away from me.
I marvelled at the wisdom of this woman. Rare. In a world when something's broke, you throw it away.
I don't know if I could have endured this. I do know that it would have required extra special grace.
As an aside, there is a silent competition going on. It is silent because only I know the parameters for judging. Look out for the winner on the 1st of May, 2013. (Then the parameters will be revealed|) hehe